In the Western, American culture I live in, I have often heard people claim, “I don’t care what other people think about me.” Advice is given to “not care what other people think about you.”
I actually care about what other people think about me. I want to know if people think I am nice or a jerk, or if I am a hypocrite, or if I am trustworthy. I even care if people think I dress weird or if they think I am fat. But I don’t let that be my ultimate guide to how I make decisions about how I act or what I do. I have my own beliefs that I have thought about and can defend. I don’t want to unecessarily offend someone or cause a fellow Christian to stumble. I will change for those reasons. But, I do have a personality and characteristics that will absolutely differ from others.
There is a place between being a jerk and being wishy-washy. I live in that place.